A friend lost her life last week.
It was supposed to be one of the greatest day in her life. It was the very day she brought in a new life in this world. But, … it was also the day she lost her own.
Sudden, untimely, unnecessary,……………
Bringing a new life to the world is the greatest joy in a mother’s life. Yet, I stare off at the distance ever so often thinking of a friend who is no longer among us. I wanted to understand what happened and why it happened. And there were many others, even those close to her, close with her, asking the same question.
As I mustered up the courage to ask a close friend, the answer I got was ………
Everyone is on the same boat, “all of us.. it could be prolonged labor or doctor(s) negligence .”
Shouldn’t there be an answer?
How can a person, just not be there anymore …………..
Is it just God’s will?
Troubled to understand and to come to terms with the reality, I turned to the web, as always.
World Health Organization says that women need not have to lose their lives while bringing one to this earth. Yet, WHO also puts a number out there, 289,000 women lost their lives due to complications during pregnancy or childbirth. The site also states that,
“In addition, for every woman who dies in childbirth, around 20 more suffer injury, infection or disease – approximately 10 million women each year.” (WHO, 2014)
A working health care system is regarded as the main obstacle to healthy mothers.
There are so many things that we are social beings, as family members, as parents, as mothers, and as parents don’t know about when it comes to reproductive health.
We are far more prepared to give a driving test than to bear a child, deliver a child, understand our body, changes in our body through puberty.
Many women have their worst nightmares through and after child birth but they are mostly unheard, unsaid, meek voices that are buried deep in the excitement, love, rejoice, and the responsibilities of a new life.
We leave our reproductive health at the mercy of our natural instincts and keep them under wraps.
Lives move on, new memories are made.
But this is important!
Life of every woman who chooses to give birth is important!
A friend is important!
The light and the hope that one brings to this earth is important!
We are important!
You are important!